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Beating Jealousy
[edit] Beating Jealousy
How To Ovecome Jealousy in Your Life and Your Relationships
Jealousy is a green eyed monster that creeps in from time to time to let us know that something isn't right within us. If you're having jealous thoughts about people around you or even just people you see on television, then realize that these feelings are there because you feel in some way inadequate about that part of your life. Jealousy is not a good thing, although it serves to give us an alarm- if we're paying attention- it can also serve to deteriorate our relationships for realistically no reason.
Some signs of jealousy are easy to notice, such as feeling jealous of your lover looking at other people, or feeling out of place in a group because your clothes (in your eyes) are not as cool as everyone else's. The reality of this problem is that you can use it constructively as things you need to look deeper into. Jealousy is a toxic condition but it can point out things you need to change or recognize about yourself. Often jealousy is a spawn of low self-esteem, but it is not directly connected to this. People with high self-esteem get jealous too.
If you find yourself envious of people around you and at the same time as making fun of them, you're wearing the same clothing, and even acting the same way as they are, then you may have a problem. The thing that happens here is we become jealous of someone because we want what they have, but to have it without contrast we tend to try to belittle them for having it. What we don't realize is that we are also belittling ourselves and others see it.
The best thing to do in a situation like this, or any situation where you're starting to recognize the signs of jealousy, is to get closer to it, learn all you can from those people - acquire more information. By learning all we can, we can put this jealousy to productive use in bettering ourselves. Maybe we can learn how they came to acquire what they have, and instead of feeling angry or lustful of their gains, we can discover how to acquire them ourselves, or even learn that we don't need them.
In many ways, jealousy is fueled by our thinking that we need certain things to be accepted, or to feel good about ourselves. There are ways to overcome these things productively, and often it boils down to learning about why we feel the way we do about them. Why are we jealous? Are we being rational about our feelings? Is it rational to be upset with someone else who put in work to acquire what they have and angry that we do not have them?
In looking deeper into why we feel this jealousy, we spend our time more productively in finding a solution. Often jealousy is just a trigger response to a deeper issue we need resolved. One thing you should do first is talk to someone, anyone about it, but not in a loathsome way. Ask your friends why they think you feel this way. Don't be afraid to talk to your friends about this. If they are true friends they will tell you what you need to hear without judgement. Chances are they've been there, or are there and you may see what they don't see, thus learning about yourself by reflection!
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